Why do we shout when angry?

shoutValue-Non violence, Peace

Sub Value- Calmness, quiet

 

A saint and his disciples were on a pilgrimage to the Holy river Ganges to take a dip in its sacred waters. There on the banks of the Ganges, they found a group of family members, shouting in anger at each other. The saint  turned to his disciples smiled and  asked.

‘Why do people  in anger shout at each other?’

Disciples thought for a while, one of them replied, ‘Because we lose our calm, we shout.’

‘But, why should one shout when the other person is just next to you? You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner.’ queried the saint

The disciples came up with several answers but none was satisfactory.

Finally the saint relented and explained, .

‘When two people are angry with each other, the distance between their hearts is a lot. To cover that distance they need to  shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the louder they will have to shout to hear each other, to cover that great distance.

What happens when two people fall in love? They don’t shout at each other but talk softly, because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either nonexistent or very small…’

The saint continued, ‘When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper  and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally there isn’t a need to whisper, they  look at each other and  that’s all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.’

He looked at his disciples and said,

‘So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant, Do not say words that distance each other further more, or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will never get reconciled !

Learning

The best way is to keep quiet when angry. Our words spoken at that time can leave an irrepairable mark on the other person. Anger can distance us from our loved ones.

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