The Golden Rule- Love can transform

MIL dilValue- Love
Sub value- Loving and respecting elders
A long time ago, a girl named Li-Li got married and went to live with her husband and mother-in-law. In a very short time, Li-Li found that she couldn’t get along with her mother-in-law at all. Their personalities were very different, and Li-Li was angered by many of her mother-in-law’s habits. In addition, she criticized Li-Li constantly. … Days passed days, and weeks passed weeks. Li-Li and her mother-in-law never stopped arguing and fighting. But what made the situation even worse was that, according to ancient Chinese tradition, Li-Li had to bow to her mother-in-law and obey her every wish. All the anger and unhappiness in the house was causing the poor husband great distess.
Finally, Li-Li could not stand her mother-in-law’s bad temper and dictatorship any longer, and she decided to do something about it. Li-Li went to see her father’s good friend, Mr. Huang, who sold herbs. She told him the situation and asked if he would give her some poison so that she could solve the problem once and for all. Mr. Huang thought for awhile, and finally said, Li-Li, I will help you solve your problem, but you must listen to me and obey what I tell you. Li-Li said, “Yes, Mr. Huang, I will do whatever you tell me to do.” Mr. Huang went into the back room, and returned in a few minutes with a package of herbs. He told Li-Li, “You can’t use a quick-acting poison to get rid of your mother-in-law, because that would cause people to become suspicious. Therefore, I have given you a number of herbs that will slowly build up poison in her body. Every other day prepare some pork or chicken and put a little of these herbs in her serving. Now, in order to make sure that nobody suspects you when she dies, you must be very careful to act very friendly towards her. Don’t argue with her, obey her every wish, and treat her like a queen.”
Li-Li was so happy. She thanked Mr. Huang and hurried home to start her plot of murdering her mother-in-law. Weeks went by, and months went by, and every other day, Li-Li served the specially treated food to her mother-in-law. She remembered what Mr. Huang had said about avoiding suspicion, so she controlled her temper, obeyed her mother-in-law, and treated her like her own mother. After six months had passed, the whole household had changed. Li-Li had practiced controlling her temper so much that she found that she almost never got mad or upset. She hadn’t had an argument in six months with her mother-in-law, who now seemed much kinder and easier to get along with. The mother-in-law’s attitude toward Li-Li changed, and she began to love Li-Li like her own daughter. She kept telling friends and relatives that Li-Li was the best daughter-in-law one could ever find. Li-Li and her mother-in-law were now treating each other like a real mother and daughter. Li-Li’s husband was very happy to see what was happening.
One day, Li-Li came to see Mr. Huang and asked for his help again. She said, “Dear Mr. Huang, please help me to keep the poison from killing my mother-in-law! She’s changed into such a nice woman, and I love her like my own mother. I do not want her to die because of the poison I gave her.” Mr. Huang smiled and nodded his head. “Li-Li, there’s nothing to worry about. I never gave you any poison. The herbs I gave you were vitamins to improve her health. The only poison was in your mind and your attitude toward her, but that has been all washed away by the love which you gave to her.” MORAL : Friends, have you ever realized that how you treat others is exactly how they will treat you?
In China it is said: The person who loves others will also be loved. THE GOLDEN RULE
Love is a powerful tool which can transform people. It may take time but never give up loving, ultimate victory is for love. It might require a lot of perseverance and patience though.

Good to forgive, best to forget

isaac Newton

We all have heard about the great scientist Sir Isaac Newton and his inventions. An anecdote about his pet dog “Diamond”. Sir Isaac Newton had been working for several hours every day, for twenty long years and written down the results of his brilliant research on loose sheets of paper. One day he went out for a walk, with his research papers on the table, leaving his dog ‘Diamond’ in the room unattended.

The story goes on to say that, Diamond jumped on to the table playfully, upsetting a burning candle, which fell on the bundle of manuscript. Twenty years of hard research was scorched to cinders within minutes. When Newton returned from his walk, he was shocked to see his monumental effort and invaluable research papers reduced to a pile of ashes. Anyone else would have beaten the dog to death. But Newton simply stroked the dog’s head and said looking at it with pity ‘Oh Diamond! You know not what you have done.’

It’s said that, Newton started writing again and it took him several years to complete the task. How great was his compassion for the dumb animal.


It is difficult to forgive a wrong done to you – yet, with a stronger will it is possible. To forget the whole episode requires super human effort and nobility of heart. If you develop the habit of forgiving and forgetting, you will not have any enemy in this wide world. You will be friendly with all.


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What is Ego ?

zen masterValue- Non violence

Sub value- Inner peace

The Prime Minister of the Tang Dynasty was a national hero for his success as both a statesman and military leader. But despite his fame, power, and wealth, he considered himself a humble and devout Buddhist. Often he visited his favorite Zen master to study under him, and they seemed to get along very well. The fact that he was prime minister apparently had no effect on their relationship, which seemed to be simply one of a revered master and respectful student.


One day, during his usual visit, the Prime Minister asked the master, “Your Reverence, what is egotism according to Buddhism?” The master’s face turned red, and in a very condescending and insulting tone of voice, he shot back, “What kind of stupid question is that!?”

This unexpected response so shocked the Prime Minister that he became sullen and angry. The Zen master then smiled and said, “THIS, Your Excellency, is egotism.”


The best way to learn something is not by having it explained to you, but by EXPERIENCING it yourself. This is a very interesting and common way how Zen Masters  try to explain things to the seeker.

How much do you need God?

Value- Love

Sub value- Intense love or need

A hermit was meditating at the riverside when a young man interrupted him. “Master, I want to become your disciple,” said the man. “Why?” questioned the hermit. The young man thought for a while and said “Because I want to find God.” The hermit grabbed the young man by the scruff of his neck, dragged him into the river, and pushed his head under water.

sage in river


The hermit held him under water for a minute or so, all the while the man kept kicking and struggling to free himself, when the master finally pulled him up out of the river. The young man  came up spluttering ,coughing up water and gasping to get his breath. When he eventually quietened down, the master spoke. “Tell me, what did you want most of all when you were under water.” “Air!” answered the  young man. “Very well,” said the master. “Go home and come back to me when you want God as much as you just wanted air.”


The will to live is sometimes stronger than wanting God in your life. In the Bible, Jesus tells people that they must give up everything in order to follow him to God.

Honesty in school- Experience shared by a 12yr old

I had just received my science test results, and I hadn’t done that well. I sadly accepted the marks and went through the worksheet to learn from my mistakes. Our teacher was addressing the class soon after, so I closed the worksheet and turned my attention towards him.

“I am not very good at math, as you all know, so please check if I have added up your marks correctly.” He stated. I was now filled with hope, as I thought he may have miscalculated my test score. I checked the addition 3 times before concluding that he had marked my test wrong. Sadly, he had given me an extra mark by mistake. I walked up to his desk and showed him the error. He beamed with pride at my act, changed my marks, and praised me for my honesty. He said that many other students would have kept quiet and would not have got back to him as their marks would have been reduced. He was very proud that I was honest. I returned to my seat, feeling proud that I did a good deed.

I practiced the human values taught to me. It feels good when we do the right action.


Age 12 yrs

Premaarpan value class Grp 2

Power of Non Violence

Value- Non violence
Sub value- Silence
gandhiji on non violence
Dr. Arun Gandhi, grandson of Mahatma Gandhi and founder of the M.K. Gandhi Institute for Nonviolence, in his June 9 lecture at the University of Puerto Rico, shared the following story as an example of nonviolence in parenting:
I was 16 years old and living with my parents at the institute my grandfather had founded 18 miles outside of Durban, South Africa, in the middle of the sugar plantations. We were deep in the country and had no neighbours, so my two sisters and I would always look forward to going to town to visit friends or go to the movies.One day, my father asked me to drive him to town for an all-day conference, and I jumped at the chance. Since I was going to town, my mother gave me a list of groceries she needed and, since I had all day in town, my father ask me to take care …of several pending chores, such as getting the car serviced.
When I dropped my father off that morning, he said, ‘I will meet you here at 5:00 p.m., and we will go home together.’ After hurriedly completing my chores, I went straight to the nearest movie theatre. I got so engrossed in a John Wayne double-feature that I forgot the time. It was 5:30 pm when I remembered; so by the time I ran to the garage to pick the car and hurried to where my father was waiting for me, it was almost 6:00 pm. He anxiously asked me, ‘Why were you late?’ I was so ashamed of telling him I was watching a John Wayne western movie that I said, ‘The car wasn’t ready, so I had to wait,’ not realizing that he had already called the garage.
When he caught me in the lie, he said: ‘There’s something wrong in the way I brought you up that didn’t give you the confidence to tell me the truth. In order to figure out where I went wrong with you, I’m going to walk home 18 miles and think about it.’ So, dressed in his suit and dress shoes, he began to walk home in the dark on mostly unpaved, unlit roads. I couldn’t leave him, so for five-and-a-half hours I drove behind him, watching my father go through this agony for a stupid lie that I had uttered. I decided there and then, that I was never going to lie again.
I often think about that episode and wonder, if he had punished me the way we punish our children, whether I would have learned a lesson at all. I don’t think so. I would have suffered the punishment and gone on doing the same thing. But this single non-violent action was so powerful that it is still as if it happened yesterday. That is the power of non-violence.”
There is a great power in non violence. Mahatma Gandhi was the best example to show that non violence can bring victory. Peace and love are the solutions to most of the problems in the world.  In many cases, silence can teach more valuable lessons than other strict measures. For imparting a value or correcting a child it is not necessary to use a harsh approach. This can be done through a non violent act as well. It is observed many times that argument and bitterness increases through shouting and anger. Non violence can be more powerful for a lasting impression of the value to be imparted.

The missing gold chain

Value- Right Conduct and honesty

One day my mum and I had gone down on some work. I spotted something shining on the road. I picked it up and realised that it was a gold chain. I and mum enquired the people around our building if it was theirs.  We couldnt  find the owner of the chain. We thought that it would belong to some one in our building. We have an egroup for our colony and my mum posted about this on the e group.  Soon the owner was found and we returned the gold chain to the right person. She was very happy to find this chain back as it was a heirloom and thanked us profusely.

I was very happy since I practised the human values taught to me. I was responsible, helpful and honest.


Age: 8yrs

Premaarpan Value and Prayer class- Grp 1

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