Value-Gratitude, Right Conduct

Sub value-Being grateful, respect

An academically accomplished young man applied for managerial position in a big company. He fared well in his interview and was called in to meet the director. The director discovered from the person’s resume, that the young man’s academic result was excellent all the way, from the secondary school until his postgraduate research. The director questioned the young man, “Did you obtain any scholarship in school?” and the young man replied, “No, Sir”. The director then asked, “Did your father pay for your school fees?” to which the young man responded, “   Sir, my father passed away when I was a year old, it was my mother who paid for my school fees”. The director then enquired, “What kind of work does your mother do ?” The young man answered hesitantly, that his mother worked as a washer woman.

The director requested the young man to show his hands. The young man held out his hands, which were smooth and perfect. The director then probed,” Did you ever help your mother with the washing?” The young man replied, “Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more, moreover, she washes clothes faster than me”. The director told the young man, “I have a request, when you return home today, I would like you to clean your mother’s hand, and then see me tomorrow morning”.

After the interview, young man left the room, happy in the knowledge, that he had possibly nailed a good job. He returned home and decided to obey the director’s peculiar request to clean his mother’s hand. His mother was bewildered at her son’s strange request, but nevertheless put forth her hands towards her son. As the young man began to clean his mother’s hands, tears started welling up in his eyes; unabashedly, they flowed down his cheeks. For the first time, he noticed that his mother’s hands were callused and wrinkled, and had many bruises on them. Some bruises were so painful, that his mom shivered, when he cleaned with them.

This was the first time the young man realized and acknowledged the fact, that it was this pair of hands that had washed the clothes every day, to put him through school. The calluses and bruises in his mother’s hand was the price, she had paid for his graduation, academic excellence and probably his future. After cleaning of his mother’s hand, the young man quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother. That night, mother and son spoke for long time. This whole thing was a cathartic experience for him.

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Next morning, the young man went to the director’s office. The director noticed tears glistening in the young man’s eyes, and asked,” Could you tell me what you did and learned at home yesterday?” The young man replied in a shaky voice,” I cleaned my mother’s hand, and also washed all the remaining clothes”. The director asked,” How did you feel”? The young man replied in a choked voice, “Sir, I have learnt to appreciate. I would not be what I am today without my mother. When I worked alongside with my mother yesterday I understood how difficult the work was and how hard she had been working all these years for me. I realize the importance and value of family”.

The director said, ” I wanted to recruit a person who can appreciate the help rendered by others, a person who understands the efforts of other people and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life, to be my manager. You are hired.”

This young man worked very hard and diligently; earned the respect of his subordinates, led his team as good leader and improved his company’s profits tremendously.


A child who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wants, develops “entitlement mentality” and always put himself first. He is ignorant of his parent’s effort. Such a child grows up to be a working adult, who fails appreciate work done by subordinates and colleagues; he automatically expects all subordinates to listen to him; he is unable to accept that he can be wrong; he is unaware and insensitive to their feelings, sufferings and internal company politics. Such a person’s effort may yield good interim results, he may be considered successful, but in the long haul of life, this inherent selfishness will give rise to greed, hatred and issues with people as there is no team spirit or leadership qualities in him, to rally his people together.

As kids, you may live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn to play the piano, watch movies on big screen LED TVs and may have all the material luxuries, but when your dad is cutting grass out in the lawn, go help and experience that as well. No work is high or low. Children must learn to do household chores with the same finesse as completing a school assignment.

After a meal, you should pick your plates, together with your brothers and sisters and stack it in kitchen sink. It is not because one does not have money to hire a maid, but it is to understand that all work is dignified and all those who do different jobs have to be respected.

The most important thing is that, as kids one must learn to appreciate the efforts of others and experience the difficulty, learn the ability to work with others as a team to get things done.


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